The More, the Merrier

When you are looking at making friends, one of the thumb rules that apply is that you don't have to focus on just one person. That is true with any relation anyway. Even if you are into a romantic relationship where most people would think that it is only the other person that should really matter, the fact is that you have to think about several other people too. You have to think about the relations of your lover, for example. You have to think about the family that you might plan together. So, the main point is that – there are always other people involved, unless you are shipwrecked on an island and spend your whole life there.

This principle also applies to friendships. When you are looking at making new friends, you must not focus on just your friend. You must also think about the friends of your friend. Don't expect them to leave their old friends just because they have met you and you are apparently doing fun things together. Don't leave your own other friends too. Even if your new friend says that they haven't had as good a time with anyone else as they have had with you, they don't really mean it. They still love their old friends a lot and would love to be with them at the drop of a hat.

That is why the best approach would be to involve these people. Ask your friend to bring their other friends sometimes; plan collective outings, for example. If they are speaking a lot about someone, say that you would like to meet that person. That achieves two things. You create an impression of being a better person in the eyes of your friend and you have a chance of meeting someone new, which could mean another potential friendship.

A good idea is to throw a celebratory party for your friendship. Call all your friends over, both of you. It could be a great way of getting to know everyone else. You will become a hit with the “other” group and will get a chance of many more potential friendships during the small party that you organize. Sooner than you think, you will be getting invited to the things that they organize.

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