Everything is fair in love and war. Not in friendship.

Where Lines Are Drawn Even in the Closest of Friendships

Even in the closest of friendships, there are things that must not be said, things that must not be done. Yes, friendships are not absolute. There are countless instances of friends hurting each other to such an extent that they become sworn enemies. Why does that happen? That happens because friendships are not completely forgiving, as they are made out to be. The person who is best friends with you right now may not want to see your face someday.

Did that happen because the friendship was weak to begin with? No. It happens more because you did not pay attention to one important detail – friendships need to be mutual. You have to give as much as you receive.

You forgot the law of reciprocation that works here. You forgot that friendship is all about reciprocating. It is all about first giving what you expect to receive.

There are some things that must be absolutely not done.

Being Overly Possessive

Never must you think that your friends are your property. You cannot play with them or their emotions any way that you want. They are also humans with feelings and desires just like you. They want to have their own way sometimes, even if they are quite accommodating in nature. If you become very possessive about your friends and make a face when they hang out with other people or start telling them what they must do and what they must not do.

Being Very Critical

Everyone accepts some amount of criticism from their friends, but things start souring when these criticisms go overboard. Unwarranted criticisms are not appreciated. If you wish to tell your friend to improve upon something, wait for the right occasion and broach the subject very cautiously, asking your friend to take what you are telling for what it is and that you are not demeaning them. In the same way, accept their criticism too. However, if you are too critical of your friends, you might lose them forever.

Not Honoring Promises

There are various promises that friends make, the simplest of which could be meeting at a particular time somewhere. Being stood up at such points is not acceptable without genuine reason. Friends are supposed to be frank with each other and hence there should not be such occasions at all. If you cannot honor something you told a friend, be clear about it and your friend will surely understand.

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